I am feeling very emotionally exposed as I post this...I am going to say everything you aren't supposed to when it comes to whether or not you are ready to have a baby.
This is a post that I have been wanting to do for sometime now in response to a lot of questions and comments we have received about this particular topic over the last (almost) 3 years of marriage.
Many of you already know, this is a very sensitive topic for me. That is why I have such a hard time responding to your questions when you ask me, "So when are you and Michael gonna have a baby?" It's not a simple answer, so I have concocted a complex, detailed answer here so that I may begin referring people to if those questions don't stop. Maybe business cards with the blog website...hmm. ;-D
For the record (before any misunderstandings and/or hurt feelings begin), I could not be happier for those of you who are enjoying your roles of parenthood or about to become parents for the first time. I am proud to know so many wonderful parents who are sometimes exhausted, are great role models, and love their children. I am truly thrilled for those of you who are expecting and can't wait to see all of the squishy family pictures of the baby when it arrives and the years of family pics and status updates regarding your little families! I am honestly very happy for each and every one of you!
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Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Honeymoon, belated
My sweet husband took me on a weekend getaway to Fort Myers for our one year anniversary this past weekend. We never had a honeymoon after our wedding so this was our first "vacation" together as a married couple. It really ended up feeling like a honeymoon.
We played putt putt, toured the Edison & Ford museum, played putt putt again, and had some nice dinners out. Michael took me to watch the sunset on the beach and to Cold Stone Creamery on the night of our anniversary! :-D Most importantly, we were able to relax and get away from all of the stress that has attempted to take over our lives lately, i.e. buying a house, Michael's work, finding a job for me, etc. What joy! (I took lots of pics on my phone but I will have to wait until we move to upload them!!)
It's amazing how you don't really have to go that far from home to get away from it all. Just book a hotel room and relax as if you were thousands of miles away from everything!!
We played putt putt, toured the Edison & Ford museum, played putt putt again, and had some nice dinners out. Michael took me to watch the sunset on the beach and to Cold Stone Creamery on the night of our anniversary! :-D Most importantly, we were able to relax and get away from all of the stress that has attempted to take over our lives lately, i.e. buying a house, Michael's work, finding a job for me, etc. What joy! (I took lots of pics on my phone but I will have to wait until we move to upload them!!)
It's amazing how you don't really have to go that far from home to get away from it all. Just book a hotel room and relax as if you were thousands of miles away from everything!!
Friday, September 24, 2010
Love defined
1 John 4:8- "Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love."
My first anniversary of wedded bliss with my amazing husband is fast approaching and it has me reflecting on our marriage and what love means to me.
This week I decided to do something special for my husband and send him a message every day, telling him something about our marriage that shows love. I loved doing this because it really made me consciously think about what it is about our marriage that works and why it works so well for us.
It got me thinking about how we love one another, not just Michael and I as a couple but all of us on this little planet called Earth. How we love one another as friends, family, strangers, coworkers, etc. Then, of course, I thought about how God love us all. He loves us as if He were blind. A blind love. Acceptance of us as we are. Love for us even when we are wrong, selfish, etc. This is the kind of love that Michael shows me every single day. What a blessing!
I try my best to love completely and with all of my heart. At times, this has been to a fault and has caused me a lot of pain before in relationships with family, romantic relationships, friends, and even strangers. But by knowing God the way I do, I see that to love fully and completely is to strive to be more like Him. He has blessed me with a wonderful companion in this life. And I can truly say that I LOVE him more now than the day I married him.
My first anniversary of wedded bliss with my amazing husband is fast approaching and it has me reflecting on our marriage and what love means to me.
This week I decided to do something special for my husband and send him a message every day, telling him something about our marriage that shows love. I loved doing this because it really made me consciously think about what it is about our marriage that works and why it works so well for us.
It got me thinking about how we love one another, not just Michael and I as a couple but all of us on this little planet called Earth. How we love one another as friends, family, strangers, coworkers, etc. Then, of course, I thought about how God love us all. He loves us as if He were blind. A blind love. Acceptance of us as we are. Love for us even when we are wrong, selfish, etc. This is the kind of love that Michael shows me every single day. What a blessing!
I try my best to love completely and with all of my heart. At times, this has been to a fault and has caused me a lot of pain before in relationships with family, romantic relationships, friends, and even strangers. But by knowing God the way I do, I see that to love fully and completely is to strive to be more like Him. He has blessed me with a wonderful companion in this life. And I can truly say that I LOVE him more now than the day I married him.
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
For a whole new ball of wax...
Well, as you can see from the date of the "First Post", it has been quite sometime since I began this blog and I have slacked in keeping it up to date. This is something that I hope to remedy from here on out.
For those of you who don't know what has transpired over the last 2 years of my life, here is the shortest version I can muster: I got a new job working for the State of TN in the Department of Human Services where I was an Eligibility Counselor and helped those less fortunate than myself get on government assistance for food, child care, and Medicaid. This job was stressful at times but paid the bills and provided me with some job fulfillment, knowing that I was helping real people survive on a daily basis.
Michael got a job and moved to Florida in January 2009. We became engaged on April 11, 2009 when I was in Florida for his birthday. It was sweet, romantic, and wonderful. Then the fun really began. I put in notice at my job that I would be moving to Florida after I got married on September 26, 2009 at a wonderful sunset ceremony at our church in Knoxville, TN. This was indeed the best, most wonderful day of my life thus far.
I then began my period of transition in this life. From being a well-educated, professional, career driven, self-sufficient woman in her late 20s to being a housewife in a region of the country totally foreign to me with nothing to do more often than not. Culture shock indeed. Not just the adjustment to living in Florida instead of Tennessee, which was QUITE an adjustment in and of itself but also to the adjustment of the pace of my life. For most of my life, prior to becoming Mrs. Poole, I had always had so much to do. Not enough hours in the day to get them all done. Hang out with friends, play in local bands, write music, sing at church, spending time with my mother and grandmother...you know, the regular hustle and bustle one's life becomes when you live in the same city for almost a decade. I loved Knoxville and had become comfortable there. Here in Venice, Florida, a town more known for sharks' teeth and geriatrics than the hustle and bustle of city life, I had become unknown. Invisible to anyone and everyone around me, except Michael and his wonderful family, who we were fortunate enough to be located near.
So here I am. In dilemma. I have tried to occupy myself with participating in local theatre but to be honest, as much as it was creatively stimulating, it was just as much taking away from my marriage because I was never seeing Michael due to rehearsals and performances being in the evenings. This is not something I wish to continue to do for free. If nothing else, this life has taught me that my time is valuable. Very valuable. To me and to Michael, and I expect to be compensated well if I am spending time somewhere other than the "home" we created by our marriage. That may sound shallow for some, but it's truly how I feel these days.
We decided to buy a house in the North Port/Port Charlotte area here in Florida. Mostly, we have discovered that renting someone else's house can be more trouble than it's worth when you could just take care of things yourself. Unfortunately for us, the house is a short sale home and that means we could be waiting a while before we are able to move into this beautiful property that we can't wait to live in. So in the meantime, we are moving out of our rental house and into Michael's parents new home in Punta Gorda, about 30 minutes south of Venice. My in-laws are truly wonderful for letting us do this temporarily and I am happy that they are getting so excited about us coming to stay with them.
For those of you who don't know what has transpired over the last 2 years of my life, here is the shortest version I can muster: I got a new job working for the State of TN in the Department of Human Services where I was an Eligibility Counselor and helped those less fortunate than myself get on government assistance for food, child care, and Medicaid. This job was stressful at times but paid the bills and provided me with some job fulfillment, knowing that I was helping real people survive on a daily basis.
Michael got a job and moved to Florida in January 2009. We became engaged on April 11, 2009 when I was in Florida for his birthday. It was sweet, romantic, and wonderful. Then the fun really began. I put in notice at my job that I would be moving to Florida after I got married on September 26, 2009 at a wonderful sunset ceremony at our church in Knoxville, TN. This was indeed the best, most wonderful day of my life thus far.
I then began my period of transition in this life. From being a well-educated, professional, career driven, self-sufficient woman in her late 20s to being a housewife in a region of the country totally foreign to me with nothing to do more often than not. Culture shock indeed. Not just the adjustment to living in Florida instead of Tennessee, which was QUITE an adjustment in and of itself but also to the adjustment of the pace of my life. For most of my life, prior to becoming Mrs. Poole, I had always had so much to do. Not enough hours in the day to get them all done. Hang out with friends, play in local bands, write music, sing at church, spending time with my mother and grandmother...you know, the regular hustle and bustle one's life becomes when you live in the same city for almost a decade. I loved Knoxville and had become comfortable there. Here in Venice, Florida, a town more known for sharks' teeth and geriatrics than the hustle and bustle of city life, I had become unknown. Invisible to anyone and everyone around me, except Michael and his wonderful family, who we were fortunate enough to be located near.
So here I am. In dilemma. I have tried to occupy myself with participating in local theatre but to be honest, as much as it was creatively stimulating, it was just as much taking away from my marriage because I was never seeing Michael due to rehearsals and performances being in the evenings. This is not something I wish to continue to do for free. If nothing else, this life has taught me that my time is valuable. Very valuable. To me and to Michael, and I expect to be compensated well if I am spending time somewhere other than the "home" we created by our marriage. That may sound shallow for some, but it's truly how I feel these days.
We decided to buy a house in the North Port/Port Charlotte area here in Florida. Mostly, we have discovered that renting someone else's house can be more trouble than it's worth when you could just take care of things yourself. Unfortunately for us, the house is a short sale home and that means we could be waiting a while before we are able to move into this beautiful property that we can't wait to live in. So in the meantime, we are moving out of our rental house and into Michael's parents new home in Punta Gorda, about 30 minutes south of Venice. My in-laws are truly wonderful for letting us do this temporarily and I am happy that they are getting so excited about us coming to stay with them.
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